Prenatal detox

Pre-natal digital detox retreat


Technology a great servant but a terrible master

It bings in your pocket and your reach to unlock it. It’s the 110th time you’ve looked at the screen completely unaware of the time that has been. You sit on the sofa with the love of your life sharing such limited time as husband and wife. You rest for a moment with that phone on the table but there’s that familiar itch can you resist, are you able?

So your baby’s on its way. What an amazing exciting understandably anxious time. You want to get everything right, make sure you are the best parent for your little one.

Time is precious. I cannot believe my first born has just turned 9!

Your bundle will come along and will be the most beautiful thing. You will have challenges and amazing adventures together.

They’ll be stinking nappies, exhausting nights, cheeky smiles, first words, first steps, potty moments (not in the potty moments!), feeding, first foods, cuddles, screams, tantrums, laughter, joy, achievements. And during all that time one of the biggest gifts you can give your beautiful child is presence.

Every time you pick up your phone you lose presence in that moment. When you add up the time you check your phone this is how much time you are losing presence in their childhood.

When you pick up your device you stop looking at everything around you. You stop listening. Constant alerts stop you missing out on what’s going on in the world but you miss out on everything happening right in front of you. You live a parallel existence where you are physically one place but mentally somewhere else. Friends, relatives and eventually your children are put on hold while you attend to another.

Pre-natal digital detox retreatChildren read parents’ faces and they will pick up that there is a stronger distraction for mummy and daddy’s time.

“And we see children deprived not only of words but of adults who will look them in the eye. Children’s inner wisdom is at work as they strain to make eye contact… From infancy, the foundations for emotional stability and social fluency are developed when children make eye contact and interact with active, engaged faces. Infants deprived of eye contact and facing a parent’s still face become agitated, then withdraw, then depressed. These days neuroscientists speculate that when parents caring for their children turn to their phones, they may effectively simulate a still-face paradigm”.
Sherry Turkle Reclaiming Conversation

Here are some comments from children within Sherry Turkle’s Reclaiming Conversation, The Power of Talk in a Digital Age:

“when my mother is texting she can’t be reached”

“Daddy stop googling, I want to talk to you?”

“Trust… knowing that someone is not understanding you, not paying attention, makes it easy to lose trust… If someone was on their phone and not really in their conversation, I don’t feel like I can trusts them as much.”

“I’m going to raise my children the way my parents think they are raising me. Not the way they really are raising me”

The neuropeptide oxytocin is essential for well being and bonding. Eye contact, touch, responsiveness creates the feeling of connectedness which in turn releases oxytocin together with dopamine which strengthens bonding and feeling of security and safety. In simple terms they feel cared for. This connectedness creates a child who can feel empathy for others.

How can this recent device compete with this precious time? Companies such as google and facebook require you to engage in repetitive actions and because of the brain’s plastic nature this rewires your brain. You have now become the rat pressing the lever!

So what can you do about it?

The first thing is awareness. It may simply be enough for you to read this and make some decisions to put in a plan of action. The next thing is taking steps towards management of the technology.

I am here as a coach to assist you if you feel you need support in attaining your goal. For some you may feel a link to your phone for certain emotional reasons that need to be worked with before you can release your tether to the tech.


EMF Hygiene and reducing exposure to wireless radiation

(in person or Skype)

Understanding the health effects of electromagnetic frequencies from devices, such as phones, wifi etc can be a confusing topic.

“Health effects?!” you may say.  This could be the first you’ve heard of this.  It may be that you’ve never heard of such a thing.  Industry and the government have not been transparent on this subject and there is much information out there, in fact thousands of studies showing biological harm.   I am here to assist you so you can make informed choices for your family’s wellbeing in this regard.  I will also provide you with simple practical steps you can take to reduce your exposure to wireless radiation.

There are 2 options here.  You may opt to stay in a shepherds hut (see below) or alternatively I offer simple 1 hour guidance sessions online or by phone (please see prices page).

Balance needs to be created between your time, tech and wireless exposure.  When that is obtained you have become the master and not the servant!

There is also the option of staying in one of our shepherds huts whether you feel you need coaching or not.
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